Practice self-soothing.

85+ Self-Care Ideas to Improve Your Well-Being

At some point in your life, you had to learn to dress your own wounds and soothe yourself after a nasty fall or a devastating loss.

If, before that, someone else had modeled effective soothing for you, that probably made it easier.

Sometimes, though, we don’t allow ourselves to acknowledge the pain we feel. Instead, we force ourselves to put it out of our heads and keep going. The problem? If we don’t give ourselves permission to acknowledge that pain and dress the wound, the infection can go deep and become harder to deal with than the original wound.

So, give yourself the gift of naming those wounds, forgiving those who caused them (including yourself), and applying a soothing remedy. That might be helping someone else through the same pain, or it might be letting someone know you forgive him.